Friday, February 26, 2010

The first 48 hours with Max














It has been an eventful first couple days and nights for all of us. The first day and night was spent in a very tight motel room and Max did not sleep well at all (and his parents didn't sleep at all) Hard to blame him as everything is new and he was probably scared. Plus he has some teeth coming in and is still fighting off an infection in his chest. After a restless night and a mistake by Mom and Dad of giving him a nap too early we were on our way from Yaroslavl to Moscow (normally a 4 hour car ride). Max did ok the first couple hours but then started screaming. He had a full belly and a clean diaper but we think he was just very tired. The looooong trip took even longer though when we were in minor fender bender on about a 5 lane road in Moscow (that the Russians make 7 lanes). Needless to say Max was not a happy baby after being in the car for 5.5 hours to try to get to Moscow. After we got here last night he went to sleep and had a much better night 2. We think he is starting to adjust to us some. It is difficult because Max is not used to the attention that we want to give him. He is used to getting a couple bottles a day and a couple diaper changes a day. He is not used to two people fussing after him although he does seem to appreciate having a full belly and a clean diaper. It is going to be a tough adjustment - he doesn't really like to be held or rocked to sleep - he has grown used to figuring out ways to comfort and calm himself. He is not used to playing with others and with toys so we are trying to help him adjust as smoothly as possible to all the newness in his life. He is crawling and with help loves to stand up and take a couple steps. We are still trying to find that magic routine for him. Overall it is going well - maybe a little more difficult than we expected but we are confident we will all adjust to each other in time.

I attached a few pictures of Max. One of them is when we got him back to the motel the first time in his brand new coat (that is a little big!). Another is of his favorite activity which is standing up and checking things out and the other one is just him saying hi to everyone.

This morning we had a visit from a doctor who prepares immigration medical documentation for the adoption. He made a much appreciated house call. He doesn't see anything wrong with Max that won't heal with a little tlc. The rest of our time will be spent at the apartment in Moscow. We meet with our agency at 12:00 on Sunday to prepare documentation for the US Embassy. On Monday we all go there for an interview and to get Max's citizenship documentation in order. That takes a couple days to process and we pick it all up on Wednesday before heading home on Thursday.

We hope all is well with everyone. We are really looking forward to being home. It has been a long trip and we are looking forward to Thursday.

4 comments:

Grandma Keen said...

Great pictures...it is good to see and hear about your daily activities as parents. Also, great to see him standing up and exploring.
Long car rides are always difficult,probably good that you have a few days there to adjust before the long trip home. The pictures and hearing about him jut make me more anxious to get to see and hold him. Hang in there...parenting is a blessing (youn might repeat that to each other when times get rougn).
Gram K

steve said...

you guys have had a tough journey and have some difficult days to come to get home. I'm proud of all the effort you have gone to to make this happen. The smile on Stephanie's face is radiant.Max is a very lucky child to have you two for parents. He is also lucky to now have an extended family and good friends that really care.God bless you, see you all on Thursday,I will pray for a safe and smooth trip . Gramps

Unknown said...

I agree with Gramps, Stephanie does look radiant. It will take time and lots of ups and downs, but Max will figure you guys out soon. He will get used to the attention. I am sure he is also getting used to this new language that he is hearing. One day at a time. You guys are awesome parents. Can't wait to meet him. Safe travels.
Love
Aunt Pat

vz said...

I love the pictures; Stephanie you look the happiest I have seen you!! As new parents, there are those "fun" adjustments to make, but soon you will get into a routine. I remember how tired & stressed Jeff & I were when Haley was born, you are probably going through that times 10!! Love reading the updates!! -Kelly VZ